Purim's Call to Unmask: | Celebrating Authenticity and Inclusion in the Autistic and Disabled Communities
by Matthew Lawrence
Purim, a festival marked by its vibrant traditions, joyous celebration, and the reading of Megillat Esther (a handwritten scroll telling the story) , stands as a compelling invitation for deep reflection on hidden identities, bravery, and the value of inclusion for the Jewish community and beyond. This celebration, particularly resonant for the autistic and broader disabled communities, draws us into a rich dialogue about the complexities of masking, the power of visibility, and the inherent strength in embracing one’s true self, all within the framework of a Jewish worldview.
At the heart of Purim is the story of Esther, a narrative deeply interwoven with themes of hidden identity and the revelation of one’s true self. Esther’s journey—from concealing her Jewish identity to bravely unveiling it to save her people—echoes the experience of “masking” and “passing” encountered by many in the autistic and disabled communities. This adaptive strategy, while often a means of navigating social environments, carries emotional and psychological weight, challenging individuals to reconcile our authentic selves with societal expectations.
Within the Jewish tradition, where every person is considered created B’Tzelem Elohim, made in the image of God, the practice of masking acquires additional layers of significance. This perspective compels us to confront societal norms that might urge us to obscure our divine-given uniqueness in pursuit of acceptance by an imperfect society. The Purim story, through Esther’s courage, becomes a beacon of hope, encouraging autistic and disabled people towards unmasking as an act of faith, liberation, and self-actualization. Without them, our lives are devoid of deeper purpose. With them, we thrive.
The customs of Purim, especially dressing up in costumes, offer a poignant metaphor for the daily navigations of identity many face. Yet, they also provide a space for exploration and self-expression, where the joy of the holiday becomes a medium for celebrating human diversity, including neurodiversity. This time of revelry invites our communities to reflect on how we can support autistic and disabled members of our community in expressing their authentic selves, advocating for environments that cherish all forms of difference.
Purim's emphasis on visibility and representation holds special meaning for an autistic disabled person like me. Just as Esther's revelation of her identity fosters greater understanding and acceptance, promoting visibility and representation for autistic and other disabled people can lead to more inclusive and understanding communities. The festival challenges us to ensure that our spaces of worship, learning, and celebration are accessible to everyone, underscoring the importance of adapting our communal practices to accommodate everyone’s needs, or to even go beyond that, but to create communal practices from the get-go, that are affirming and inclusive.
As we don our costumes and immerse ourselves in the festivities of Purim, let us also engage in deep reflection on the themes of identity, bravery, and inclusion that underlie the holiday. Let this be a time for advocating for the rights and acceptance of autistic and other disabled individuals in our communities, ensuring our full participation in all aspects of society.
May the story of Esther inspire us to embrace our authentic identities, to stand proudly in our truths, and to advocate for the visibility and representation of all marginalized communities. As we celebrate Purim, let us commit to building communities that reflect the joy, diversity, and inclusivity at the heart of this festival, honoring the true spirit of Purim as a champion of a world where every individual is celebrated for who they are.
In embracing the lessons of Purim, let us strive to create spaces where diversity is not just accepted but embraced as a testament to the multifaceted ways in which the Divine manifests in our world. Let our celebrations be a commitment to inclusion, understanding, and respect for every individual’s journey, creating a festival of true joy, reflection, and boundless inclusivity. Happy Purim — may it be a celebration that honors the depth of our shared humanity and the unique contributions of each member of our community.
Matthew is an autistic advocate, educator, coach, guide, and mentor based in Paris who is on a lifelong journey to champion the rights and empowerment of autistic people via a uniquely Jewish lens.
Navigating the world as a disabled AuDHD (Autism-ADHD) person, he learned to appreciate his authentic self amidst societal pressures to conform both within and outside of the Jewish community. Matthew’s education in both academia and the yeshiva world enriched his love for Judaism, while his experiences living, learning, and teaching in diverse communities across the globe, both Jewish and non-Jewish, have enriched his spiritual connection and understanding of both Yiddishkeit and the greater world.
Crucially, Matthew's life's work centers on autism rights, disability rights, and the Neurodiversity movement, and he actively volunteers in these areas in addition to his professional work in and out of the Jewish community. As an experienced educator, life coach, mentor, and guide, he empowers autistic individuals with vitality, resilience, and the tools to navigate the challenges of Autistic Burnout.
With a spiritual dimension drawn from the rich traditions of Judaism and deep respect for other spiritual paths, Matthew integrates these facets into his coaching style. His work with the greater disability community and worldview is heavily influenced and inspired by the Jewish tradition, and in particular by the Kotzker Rebbe, Simcha Bunim of Peshischa, Abraham Joshua Herschel and Reb Zalman. He envisions a world where autistic people not only survive, but flourish, and works daily to achieve it.
Matthew proudly serves as both a member and organizer within self-advocacy organizations, specifically CLE Autistes and the Jewish Autism Network. Within the Jewish Autism Network, he takes on the role of host and moderator of a free discussion and support group, offering autistic individuals in the Jewish community a safe and supportive space to grow and connect.
You can read more about Matthew and his work at theautisticcoach.com or follow him on Twitter, Bluesky, Mastodon, Facebook, or Instagram.